How to improve your social skills.
Often times,we find ourselves around people as we run our daily lives.
Whether at home,office or in our walks in the streets,we meet different people,from different places and housing different issues from their experiences in life.
So is true for our case,as we are exposed to different environments that tune us into having differing responses to people.
However,regardless of our internal environment or what is going on around us,we are obligued to bring forth a positive and friendly plane of ourselves.
Everybody wants to feel recorgnized,welcomed,respected,thus,the need to grind our social skills so as to bring out that which we expect from the ones around us.
Of surety,nothing comes on a silver platta.We therefore,have to breath in energy and get what we want.
So is no exception in working out our social skills.
I always had a tough time running smoothly with the people around me.
I actually thought its an inborn character that would negligibly respond to any efforts to make it right within me.
However,through constant practice of social skills that i will be sharing with you today,time proved my opinions wrong.
Always remember,nothing comes without us getting it,and with that,we got to set what we want to achieve in our sight and move towards getting it.
Science may not have it(lol),but my personal experience has it that,constant practice of the following social skills will be rewarding in improving your social life.Attend to them.[autoad]
1.Say thank you and please.
Aargh,very basic stuff!Right?
But it is the little things that we do that matter most.
Saying thankyou in recorgnition of ones effort towards your need will bring a twined satisfaction.To you,in that you feel the sense of fulfillment by recorgnizing the efforts of the other party.To the acting party in that,they feel your acknowledgement for their input and creates a willingness to do reach out in a ‘next time’.
Think with me,how would the world be if everyone learned and practiced saying thankyou?
Often times we find ourselves in a situation that requires others to give room or attention to us.
By a simple please,we create a soft path in others to give an allowance for us.It smoothens our hustle for getting something into our basket.
In addition,the other party feels that you recorgnize their presence and are not forcing your way out,but requesting allowance from them.
Basically they seem to be very simple practices but their result is way beyond their appearance.
2.Learn using peoples names.
It goes out so easy to call out ‘Hey you!’ to the extremes of a ‘pssst’ to get the attention of someone.
This could hold as a norm of the society,but does not do so good in perfecting our social skills.
Learn to seek ones attention by calling their names.
It sounds better saying out; ‘Hello,Mellisa,please help me out with your sociology notebook’ than a weightless ‘Psst,give me your sociology book’.
Remember,its a foundational thing for good survival among people to work out peace with everyone.
Some may take in a ‘psst’ or ‘you!’ with no match weight.Remember,i said some.
In the case we dont know of someones name,we have a direct offer to expand our social network by reaching out to them and seeking to know their name.
3.Listen without interrupting.
Day in day out,we find ourselves communicating with other parties.
Whether in our offices,at home or an unplanned meet up in the park.
How would the world be without people talking to each other anyway?!?
Communication being a basic day to day act that we always engage in,it holds much weight of need to practice listening to the people we are engaged with in communication.
Learning to listen without interrupting enables us to capture all details said,think over them and respond accordingly.It also gives the other party room to bring out all ideas and concerns in mind with ease.
Moreover it is a fair deal as you would not wish to have someone interrupt you as you communicate.
4.Don’t respond to negativity.
We cant deny the fact that in our daily runs we come across negativity.Coming from people and situations.The best thing to do is respond to negativity with positivity.
The law of polarity states that every situation or person has two ends,a positive and the negative.
We can always choose to respond to the positive and with positivity and sieve put the negative or act to them as a learning platform to serve in improving ourselves.
Positive response can go a long way to changing the negative status of a person or a situation,bettering things up
5.Wait your turn.
Im so sure we have all been in a set up that we wish we would make our way past others without that simple regard that they are people just like us.
Probably at the grocery store cashiers’ point,that service line at the fuel station.
We understand how in a hurry you are,and how time is really not on your side.
However,its lucrative to practice waiting for our turn.
You can get to your service station in good time to avoid rushing.
Learning to wait for your turn is a building stone for patience which is core in our relationship with others,and more important,with ourselves.[autoad]
6.Always be kind.
This rule is as simple as it appears to be.Putting it into practice carries the weight.
You want to know what to do to be kind?Just be kind.
Put the other party in your shoe,as we say.Feel them and get to understand how they would feel in response to your action to them.
If we consider what other parties will feel out of our actions towards them,we will be careful enough to do such as we would wish be done to us.
7.Hold the door open.
Someone is walking behind you towards the door?
Please hold the door open for them to pass.
Again,its the little things that we do that matter.
There is nothing much complicated in this,just hold the door open for them.
8.Talk less but say more.
Does it make any difference?Oh yes!
Minimize your talking but say more.
We can differentiate this by the value attached to your content of speech.
It is so possible to talk much while delivering little value.
Aint it worthy to save the energy?
Let your talk be full of value rather than mere words.
9.Be quick to forgive.(You will also need to be forgiven).
Forgiveness is a foundational aspect in our social life.
In our interaction with other people,we are exposed to being hurt,either intentionally or unintentionally.
Whatever the case,learning to forgive is fundamental. Forgiveness is an act of letting go the offense committed against us and clearing up everything in our hearts that would still take us back to the offense and affect our interactions with the offending party.
This will save us a big deal.
Heaping up pains and grudges within us eats us up and leaves us degraded.
Forgiving lets in peace within our hearts that will enhance our relations with others.
Learn to forgive,and always be aware that you and me will need forgiveness not so late.
Its important to distinguish bragging and confidence.
Its very okay to be confident in oneself.Its totaly out of order to brag.
Confidence is a state of having a strong sense of belief on yourself,your abilities,apearance among other aspects of oneself,though within a limit as overconfidence is a risk.
Bragging in other words is being boastful.
Regardless of the achievements you have ammersed,do not brag!
Bragging could be brought about by mindset that we are way above the rest,or have are doing something that others may not do to match up with us.
Going that extra mile is so good,and attracts corresponding achievement.
However,mastering to have a humble spirit or mindset is the weighing scale.
Regard those people around you as people with ability and open to chances to make them as succesful as you are.
Remember the input of other people in your success ladder.
Above all,keep in mind of that humble begining where it all began.
We should all strive to perfecting our social skills as we are living amongst people and cannot avoid relating with them.Otherwise we wouldnt call living life.
The consistent practice of the above suggested skills will surely move you up in your journey to improve your social skills.
All the very best in it!